Re-inventing the date night...

Thursday, March 26, 2009

So last Sunday afternoon we made dinner together for Mum and Dad. I know, who has rhubarb flan for dinner right? But anyway, I was surprised at how well it turned out! Not because we can't cook or anything, just because it was a new recipe and the rhubarb wasn't quite up to its usual standard.

Most studies of love & marriage show that the decline of romantic love over time is inevitable. The butterflies of early romance quickly flutter away and are replaced by familiar, predictable feelings of long-term attachment. But several experiments show that regular injections of novelty and excitement - simply doing new things together as a couple - may help bring the butterflies back, recreating the chemical surges of early courtship (which, by the way, are also the brain chemicals involved in drug addiction and obsessive-compulsive disorder). So on that riveting note, I thought about re-inventing the date night to come up with some different ideas. Here are some of our ideas so far...

Eeling, floundering, goat shooting, fishing, golf, random road trip, attending a rugby or soccer match, picnic dinner at the beach, progressive dinner with other couples, reading a landscaping book together (have actually done this one surprise, surprise haha), a trip to the observatory, games of tennis & badminton and my personal favourite (I found this one online) - find it & fix it. Buying a cheap piece of used furniture from a garage sale and fixing it up together: painting/sanding/decorating/etc.

All this got me thinking about God and our first love. When we first 'met' God, all the crazy emotions we felt and things we did for Him simply because we were 'in love' with Him. And maybe now, the feelings have worn off somewhat and we don't spend as much time with Him as we should. Or maybe the relationship has become stale and familiar. (Just cracked myself up when the line 'and may you' came into my head. I think I've seen too many Rob Bell dvds haha)

So what things can we do to inject some novelty back into our romance to make it come alive again? And how do we press in even when the feelings aren't there anymore?

Because that's what God longs for. To romance us and for us to do things for Him & spend time with Him simply because we love Him - no other reason.

10 comments:

Stephen said...

I attest to the fact that rhubarb flan rocks! And I sure know what you mean when you get a Rob Bell "may you" line begging to come out at the end of a more serious post.

Oh the intricate web of influence.

Rachel Kate said...

tehe we should go into the 'hair' industry speaking of influence lol

Symon said...

may you guys rock!

PaisleyJade said...

glad I wasn't there... rhubarb and me don't go together well. Looks nice though... and some great tips and thoughts. I liked the 'may you' bit too ;)

Rachel Kate said...

lol symz :)

well k you can add apple or any other fruit really and it would still taste great :) ask jase for the recipe...

Stephen said...

Oh it was Jase you made it with? I just assumed from the mysterious "we" that you had been talking to nephilim again.

Rachel Kate said...

No, that would be symon. I would much rather talk to a leviathon. Or a spot on the wall. Take your pick

Rhys said...

You're a tom boy rach lucky jase is a bit of nanna haha. Jase ill be waiting for retaliation.

Rachel Kate said...

haha rhys he doesnt have his own comp so you could be waiting a while... but i could accidently pass the message on :)

Rachel Kate said...

so what i do that was so tom-boyish? but true, i do have a little bit of a reputation to live up to about not being too girly haha

 
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